I took apples, philosophy, and technical news, and we rested in the silences between topics. The visit was followed by departure the next week. The obituary was a collective effort. Wrenching at times, but I remain and need to speak on behalf of those who cannot. Meanwhile a family member (who was unconditionally accepting) and a childhood friend also departed. I have never felt more alive and vital. A puddle of sorrow and enlivened beyond measure.